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Recently I’ve seen a couple of posts about parties with two people booking a window and aisle seat, hoping for an empty middle. There was this one from Live and Let’s Fly and then another from Your Mileage May Vary..This can be either picking a window and aisle seat on airlines where you can pick your seats, or choosing a window and aisle seat when you are flying Southwest. I’ve seen it discussed as a “travel hack” or “pro tip” and I wanted to give my thoughts on whether it was okay to book a window and aisle seat and then hope nobody sits between you.

a group of people sitting in an airplane

Booking a Window and Aisle Seat (and hoping nobody sits between you)

There are a lot of different thoughts on how best to pick seats when traveling with a group.

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In some cases, you might be buying a Basic Economy ticket where you don’t have any choice of what seat you get, but if you do have a chance to pick seats, there’s a couple of different ways that you can arrange your party, depending on how many people you are flying with.

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The same holds true if you’re flying Southwest and their “open seating” policy. Depending on your boarding position, you may be in a situation where you have most of the plane wide open to you, allowing you to pick your seat configuration. While I have some pretty strong feelings about whether you should save seats on Southwest (short answer: don’t do it), what some people do when flying in a group of two is sit down in a window and aisle seat and leave the middle seat open. The hope for airlines where people pick their own seats is that the middle seat in between of you will not be chosen (after all, most people will choose a window or aisle if possible). Or on Southwest, again, the hope is that people will pass up the middle seat in hopes of finding a window or aisle somewhere else.

Is it okay to book a window and aisle seat and leave the middle open?

In most cases where I have seen people advocate for this strategy, they say that if someone does sit in the middle (usually because they were assigned that seat or there are no other empty seats), the person on the aisle will offer to move over to the middle. Most people will gladly exchange a middle seat for an aisle (or window), so that leaves the couple together in the window and middle, with the other person getting an “upgrade” from their assigned middle seat to an aisle seat. If nobody sits in the middle seat, then you get a little bit of extra room.

a blue and red airplane flying in the sky

My Southwest Boarding Strategy When Flying Alone

This is similar to but not quite the strategy I use when flying Southwest by myself. I usually have an early enough boarding position to have my choice of seats. I prefer the aisle seat, so when I board, I look for a(nother) average to above-average sized man sitting in the window seat with an open middle. Then I get my laptop out and put my head down and don’t make eye contact with anyone walking down the aisle. If someone wants to take the middle seat next to us, I of course get up and let them, but I’ve been pretty successful with this strategy. In fact, on my last Southwest flight, I think there was only one open seat on the whole plane and it was next to me. As I type this out, I wonder if other people might consider this strategy rude – let me know in the comments what you think. To me, someone is going to have an empty middle seat, and I don’t think anyone has any “right” to it, so I see no reason why I shouldn’t do whatever’s possible to increase the odds that it’s me.

When it’s not okay to book a window and aisle seat and leave the middle open

As laid out above, I don’t have a problem with this “airplane hack”. I don’t see anything wrong with hoping for an empty middle seat and falling back to a backup plan where you as a couple are together in the middle and window. Where I do have a problem is the following scenario, which was reported on again by Your Mileage May Vary. In this situation, the couple aas flying Southwest and picked a window and aisle seat, hoping for an empty middle. So far, so good. But then someone came to sit in the middle seat and the couple just let them take the middle, and proceeded to spend the entire flight talking around him. That is not cool people!

Of course, you also have the following situation, as reported by God Save the Points – a couple was split in business class and economy. The husband, who had been upgraded to business class, went back to economy to offer the person sitting next to his wife an upgrade to business class in exchange for his economy aisle seat. Before he could offer, the person brusquely shot him down. So he offered the business class seat to another passenger. Oops! 🙂

a seat with a red pillow on it

The Bottom Line

One popular airplane “hack” is for two people traveling together to book an aisle and window seat, hoping for an empty middle seat and a little more room. The thinking is that if you get an empty middle, great, but if someone comes to sit there, the person in the aisle scoots over to the middle and lets the other passenger have the aisle. As far as I’m concerned, that is an okay strategy as long as you actually scoot over to the middle if another passenger comes by. I can’t think of a scenario where it’s appropriate for two people traveling together to intentionally sit apart and talk around another person for the entire flight.

What’s your take on this strategy? Leave your thoughts in the comments

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